$18k and counting: the true cost of fertility preservation and surrogate fees
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I've since learned the term for this procedure is known as "fertility preservation." It means that, in the face of losing the capacity to reproduce, you do what you can to preserve your ability to have kids. For me, that desire was instinctive. Turns out that most insurance carriers don't cover fertility preservation, even in the face of cancer.
Since I haven't been able to find much on the true cost of fertility preservation -- and the reported costs on the interwebs of using a surrogate have been wide-ranging from $15,000-130,000 depending on which site you visit -- I decided to be completely transparent here for the price of this carnival ride. (The site that offered "Our Guatemalan service for only $42,000" freaked me out a little.)
That way, if you're considering going the surrogate route, you've got a rough idea of the costs involved. Keep in mind, this is based on us being in California, our surrogate being in New Jersey, the embryos being routed through Nevada, and the baby being born in Pennsylvania...a map to follow that meandering trail is forthcoming. Your price may vary.
Here's the true cost of fertility preservation and surrogate fees for us:
Running total: $17,957.62 (with discounts)
Running true cost: $25,909.90
(what we would've paid had it not been for discounts from
kind doctors and drug reps who wanted to help us out)
- IVF procedure (mine): $9,737.72 (discounted from $12,000)
- IVF medications (mine): $0 (discounted from $5,000)
- Blood tests (us): $1374.90 (discounted from $1,764.90)
- Uncompensated gestational carrier agreement: $2,000 (discounted from $2,300)
- Contract review (for the surrogate): $750
- Insurance review: $300
- Pennsylvania Parental Establishment Order: $2,500
- Court filing fees: $300
- Psychologist reviews (for all parties): $450
- Cost of shipping embryos to East Coast: $545
- Costs as of Aug. 27, 2010. Other costs to be added as we incur them.
Since well before my uterine cancer diagnosis, I've wanted to be a mom. Have a baby. Change poopie diapers. Tell them they're making all the wrong decisions. A cute, hopefully red-headed, sure-to-be spirited spitfire like her mom. (Send me my future kid's therapy bills now for saying "her" out loud in the case one of our 6 embryo-popsicles turns out to be a boy.)
But babies don't pay for themselves. So far we're using a mixture of small loans and credit cards to finance Baby DeFrias. We're also exploring a second mortgage. If that doesn't pan out, we'll be putting the rest on the credit cards. You know how old people do reverse mortgages, paying down until the day they die? I see these costs as an investment, where we're doing a sort of reverse allowance for our future kid(s) -- and they'll be paying us back with household chores until they're 21.
*Updated as of 8.19.10 - we'll keep adding to the list as the bills come in,
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