an amazingly wonderful day

Yesterday started out like any other Friday, so of course it meant looking forward to the weekly happy hour at work. For most of the morning, I worked on words and user experience stuff for our site, knowing that by lunch I'd have to call Dr. Hope and let her know our decision. (IT Geek and I spent much of Thursday discussing our options.)

At 11 a.m. I got a call from the Local Research University's Reproductive Office. They wanted to let me know they shared our story with the drug reps and the doctors at the office, and, by the way, all of them wanted to donate their services so we could do IVF.

[Insert jaw-droppy moment here.]

The drug reps are donating thousands of dollars of drugs so we can harvest my eggs. The doctors are donating their time. All we need to pay for is the retrieval, tests, and storage. And, by the way again, they even were able to get that price lowered.

But yeah, that. It's still a lot of money, but not the $14k we were originally quoted. So I went back and forth all morning in my mind.

I needed a mental break, so I headed down to lunch. And the more I thought about everyone's generosity, the more I realized how much how many people -- total strangers for the most part -- care and want to make this a reality for us.

So fuck it, it's only money.

We'll make it work. I rode the elevator back upstairs, smiling at the thought of calling IT Geek and telling him we'll make this work, we'll clean out our savings and my 401k and whatever else we need to do.

That's when the floor fell out from under me.

I got a call saying we qualified for a no interest loan. We talked about the payment options for a moment, then I hung up and cried for the next 35 minutes. I couldn't speak, I could barely breathe. Five weeks of build up came out in sobs.

So I'm grateful today. Grateful to the doctors, to the drug reps, and to everyone who's been rooting for us all along.

I called Dr. Hope and gave her the green light to start the process. I also said that since we're able to try for eggs before the hysterectomy, I definitely want to donate one ovary to Dr. Professor (so he can study the PCOS) and one to the Algea Study (so they can study growing the embryo in a more natural environment). She's thrilled, and also got a little teary-eyed. She said this (meaning all the folks donating to us and us wanting to donate right back) is unheard of, and directly linked to us being so positive and willing to share our story.

Now let's harvest some eggs!

My favorite Gary Larson comic ever.
The irony's not lost on me with the
egg harvesting comparison.


Gretchen said…
Amazing amazing amazing! Thank you for renewing my faith in the basic goodness of humanity! SO awesome! Hope you're having a beautiful day in San Diego Lovey!
Jedihoneypot said…
Two tears. Left eye only. Don't know if that is a sign...
Kim said…
Wow, that's so wonderful! I know I barely know you, but I am so happy for you. Also, my face is raining.
Kara DeFrias said…
@Gretchen - Glad to help. I feel the same: people are GOOD. :)

@Danielle - Of COURSE it means something. We'll figure it out this week at SXSW - see you soon!

@Kim - Oh no, I hope it's a happy rain! I'm glad you're here. :)
Madeline said…
Good for you Kara. You are such an inspiration and I love reading your blog. You write so well. I do hope we get to see you again in Aust sometime in the future. xx
Unknown said…
That's Karma for's so great that you are willing to donate both of your ovaries. Good things are bound to come your way!
Gingerbreadmama said…
So amazing, I am so very, very, very happy for you! xoxo
T. said…
Awesome. Awesome. Awesome.

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