reacting to friends' baby news

I have quite a few friends who either just had babies, are expecting babies, or just found out they are pregnant. Inevitably, a couple of them feel bad talking to me about any of it because they know we're trying to conceive. To them, I say:

It's okay.

I'm really, truly happy for you! I love babies, even if it's not my own, or one I'm related to, or one I just had or am about to have. :-) I do appreciate that you're taking my feelings into concern, and I also understand that it may be hard for others who are trying to conceive.

If you've read this (even with my lack of posting love), you'll know how I feel about we women keeping our pregnancy highs and lows to ourselves. In fact, I just found out a couple of days ago about 3 more friends who're having a hard time. Dude! Let's talk about it and help each other through this! If there are support groups for vampire welfare queens who are compulsive bowlers ("What Your Own" - Rent reference, it starts about the 2:20 mark), surely we can support each other!

Speaking of newly pregnant moms, I'm going to take this opportunity to plug a college friend's business. She's in the DIY business, and makes the most beautiful baby announcements (among other things). I highly recommend her, as she's wickedly talented at what she does.

the left hand doesn't know what the right hand's doing

We went a couple of months with light periods and minor spotting, but not much to go on.

In December, my grandmother passed away and we flew back East for her funeral. I came back, resolute to go through with the HSG test. Prior to taking the Provera, BigHMO made me take a chlamidia test to make sure I was in the clear (seriously, people, I gave up tricks after getting married...there's no clap).


I told SuperSpecialist my concern that I wouldn't be able to hit the 10-day window for the HSG test since my period lasted so long last time, but she said to ask for her when making the appointment and she'd do the test even if we missed the window. Toward the end of my cycle, I called the Infertility Center (name sucks!) to make the HSG appointment.

At the end of January I took the Provera, and my period was much shorter than the last time I took it. That makes sense, since last year when I took it there was, more or less, 2 years worth of build-up. When I called to make my HSG appointment, I was told it was too late. I asked for SuperSpecialist, and was told that they couldn't do the procedure because, at Day 14, the menses were starting to build up again and they wanted a clear path to the pipes.

Ugh.

I'm sitting here waiting for my March period to start...and I've got BigHMO on speed dial to schedule the HSG the moment it starts. (Well, calling them to schedule it for Day 10 from the moment it starts.)

ps - Kidding about the tricks part. I still do those every Tuesday night.